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Codependent No More: A Group Coaching Opportunity for Clergy

Location: Zoom
Date: September 27, 2022 at 12:00pm

Codependent No More: A Group Coaching Opportunity for Clergy in the Dakotas and Minnesota Annual Conferences!
If you wake up every day focusing on making everyone else happy (except yourself), emotionally drained, feel immense amounts of pressure and demands to meet everyone’s emotional/spiritual need, struggle with guilt and making decisions, find yourself walking on eggshells around others, and almost forcing joy most of the time when around others, this is a MUST DO group experience!! 

This group starts on Tuesday, August 23, from 12-1 pm central on zoom for 12 weeks.  The group will be capped at 8 participants, but if there is a larger interest, another group time will be offered. 
“I’m learning to give myself permission to be vulnerable with those I can trust, while understanding I am only responsible for my own behavior and reactions. This group has taught me so much! This book has given me numerous tools to utilize in interacting with my congregation and leading them more effectively through vulnerability.”  -Kim Hastings, Pastor, Howard Beach, SD 

Codependent No More group coaching is led by Stephanie Moore,  founder of Moore Counseling Group in Sioux Falls and a licensed mental health counselor. She is a pastor's wife (Charlie Moore, Sunnycrest UMC in Sioux Falls, SD) and the daughter of a pastor. Stephanie can relate to the specific issues faced by spiritual leaders and their families and the challenges that contribute to stress, burn out, and depression/anxiety. 
If you are interested in giving an hour a week to your health and healing as a pastor, register here. The funding is provided by Lilly grants provided to both the Dakotas and Minnesota Annual Conferences. You only need to buy the book “Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself” available on Amazon and commit to one hour for 12 weeks. The registration deadline is Friday, August 12. Upon registration, Stephanie will reach out to you directly to discuss group parameters.
The concept of codependency has a negative connotation—but the reality is it is literally the definition of codependency mirrors the “Midwest Nice” culture, common characteristics in church dynamics and culture, and how must of us were raised- with all good intentions of course. This has created a perfect storm with MANY people now struggling with this, especially those in ministry and helping professions! If we do not get a handle on our own behaviors that contribute to poor boundaries, guilt, and self-blame, then professions in ministry, humanities, and social services will no longer exist in 10-20 years due to excessive burnout! Here are some common characteristics of people struggling with codependency:You have trouble articulating your emotions and feelings.

  • You want to please everyone.
  • You feel the need to fix others.
  • You struggle to set clear boundaries in your life.
  • You sacrifice your own wants and needs to appease others.
  • You are loyal to a fault. 

Stephanie Moore has guided and coached 10 different Codependent No More Group experiences. It is an amazing transformation of each person’s ability to be clear about their right to be a human being and to be treated with love and respect by anyone they interact with. Most people entering the ministry are naturally compassionate, giving people. However, many wonderful loving church leaders feel guilty for expecting others to treat them with the same compassion and love back. We do not have to apologize for the essential human need of love and compassion that Jesus gives us permission to demand and expect from others!

Cost: Free, you only need to buy the book “Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself”
Deadline: August 12, 2022 12:00 AM


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